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Could criticism, and the ability to react well to it, be tied up with executive functioning ability? As I've aged, I've found a critical (not negative) inner monologue can help me focus, prioritize, and check my work. It doesn't come naturally to me, but if I set one of my thought-tracks to 'critical,' I can produce timely, conscientious work.
We know that EF abilities are delayed in ADHD kids. Could it be that their emotional response to criticism is delayed as well? Maybe we need to work harder at teaching these kids to handle criticism.